Having first-time sex may feel awkward as it gets very uncomfortable after all it’s your first time. But on the other side, it involves a lot of fun, excitement and above all, it’s a very different feeling for the one who goes through it. Sex and virginity can be meant different by different individuals. There is a number of myths around first-time sex, losing virginity, and which may cause fear while having first-time sex.
So, here are a number of things which you should consider before losing your virginity. This will help you to know about some common myths and will help you to calm your nerves, stay protected and reduce discomfort.
What exactly is breaking Virginity?
Many people define “sex” and “breaking virginity” in different ways. The one who never had sex is defined as a virgin. But it is not as simple as it seems. This may be because sex means different things to different people.
Hymen breaking is not related to your Virginity
Many people believe that hymen tear is related to virginity which is not true at all. Hymen breaking has nothing to do with virginity. As there are many myths related to it. The hymen is a very thin and flesh tissue that is located at the opening of the vagina. Most people believe that hymen is stretched only the first time you had sex. But that’s not true. In many cases hymen can be stretched while doing sports activity, riding a bike, inserting something in the vagina like tampons, fingers or sex toys. Many people believe that once the hymen is broken, you are not a virgin anymore. This is again not true at all. Some people are naturally born with stretched hymen open. But having a hymen and being a virgin are two different things. Some hymen breaking signs may include pelvic pain, lack of menstrual cycle, back pain, painful urination which is very commonly seen in women.
Popping the cherry
Another myth which most people believe as every woman bleeds while having first-time sex, some women don’t bleed while having first-time sex. Both situations are normal. Having stretched hymen doesn’t mean the woman is not a virgin. So, the hymen has nothing to do with popping the cherry.
Orgasm during your first time
While having first time sex, it is not necessary to have an orgasm during the first time intercourse, which is not bad at all. It cannot be predicted as having the first time sex, a woman will definitely have an orgasm or will get satisfaction. There can be a number of reasons related to it. It may be because of discomfort level, medical conditions, and many more. In Fact, researchers say that 11- 41 per cent of women with a vagina have difficulty in reaching orgasm with their partner. Sometimes the partners must have knowledge of ways to satisfy women during sex. So, it’s not necessary for a female partner to orgasm during her first time.
Virgins may get STDs
This is very important to know that even if any person is a virgin, they have chances to get sexually transmitted infections STDs or STIs. Even if both of the partners had never sex then also they can get infected with this. Some people get infections such as HIV, Herpes, and Hepatitis. These infections can be transmitted through vaginal, oral, and anal sex, so it’s important to use condoms to protect yourself and your partner from any infections. It is important for both of the partners to discuss sexual health and get tested for STIs regularly.
Losing virginity impact on body change
Your body is not going to change after losing your virginity. Also, after having sex many times before, it will not have any bad impact on your body. But there may be a few physiological reactions that are related to sexual arousal can be seen as erect penis, swollen vulva, rapid breathing, sweating, which is very normal and temporary. It’s only responding to the stimulus and not the body is changing.
Chances of Pregnancy
Yes, there may be chances of getting pregnant if you are having sex for the first time or you have done it before until and unless you are not using any protection such as condoms. Also, there are chances of not getting pregnant if you are having oral or anal sex. But during vaginal sex one needs to be careful and should take precautions using condoms.
Some important hymen breaking reasons
There can be various reasons for hymen breaking such as biking, horse riding, dancing, gymnastics and sometimes using tampons or masturbating can break the hymen. And it is very normal to completely get unnoticeable whenever it happens. Also, some women are born without a hymen. It’s seen as very common as the hymen is thicker during childhood; it begins to thin as we grow. So, chances of breaking hymen are higher when women perform some physical activity like exercise, bike riding and many more. But that does not have any bad impact on your sexual or reproductive health.
It’s not obvious that hymen breaking causes pain
As from the above, we already know that there are many reasons for hymen breaking. So most of the time, women didn’t get to know about the hymen breaking. So, that’s the main reason they don’t feel any pain as they themselves don’t know about the breaking. While during the first time of having sex, the hymen break but sometimes women may feel some pain, and sometimes women don’t experience the pain. And that’s very normal because everybody has a different body type and so the body reacts to it.
The Bottom Line
So, from the above, it’s concluded that there are many myths related to losing virginity. One should have proper knowledge related to this.
Having sex for the first time is not very painful as different body type reacts differently. If certain precautions are taken then it would help in reducing the discomfort and having pain free pleasurable sex.
FAQs
What happens if you lose your virginity before 22?
Ans: There is nothing to worry about if you lose your virginity before 22 as it does not have any bad impact on your body. But one thing that should be taken care of if you are having first-time sex is that never forget to take the precautions like a condom to prevent it from sexually transmitted infections.
How do you know if you lost your virginity?
Ans: There might be a certain pain or bleeding while you lose your virginity for the first time and that may be because of the hymen breaking for the first time. But that doesn’t happen with everybody. Many women feel discomfort after losing virginity and that is temporary, some can feel physiological reactions that cause sexual arousal like, swollen vulva, fast breathing, sweating, and that is normal and temporary.
What is the average age to lose virginity?
Ans: As per the study, the average age of losing his/her virginity is 22.9 years. Also, one should be aware of taking contraceptives before indulging in sexual intercourse. The other data reveals that most of the men lose their virginity at the age between 22-24 and women for first sex between 15-19 years.
What are the physical signs of lost virginity?
Some physical signs that have been seen of lost virginity which is temporary are fast breathing, erect penis, swollen vulva, discomfort, sweating etc. There are no bad signs seen while losing virginity.
What Symptoms after you lose your virginity?
Ans: Some of the common symptoms that have been seen in women are Vaginal changes, swollen vulva, the skin may start glowing, delay in periods, happy hormones are released and many more.